We shouldn’t criticize those who are brave enough to live their truth. It is never easy to do what we feel is right in our hearts knowing that people will have opinions, usually based out of fear, that oppose our own truth.
But conversely, we speakers of our truth cannot expect the world to always be on board with us. Sure, we feel passionate about our point of view, but others feel just as passionate about their own. It is easy to feel attacked when this happens, but we MUST remove our ego from the situation and remember, if we are living our truth based on love we have nothing to fear and no one else’s fear can diminish our truth. Some people are stuck in a world where they view everything with goggles tinted by fear and anxiety. That is what they believe right now. All I can do is pray that someday, they will be able to take off the goggles and see that the real world is not one to be feared. The world is full of love and possibilities and kindness.
I read once that the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s fear. Hate is an emotion that stems from fear. So fear can make people do hateful things. Every war, every argument, every crime ever committed, happened because someone was afraid and made other people afraid. But look at a child, whose innocence isn’t yet affected by the fear in the world. We aren’t born knowing fear. It’s something we learn from our parents, our peers, and our society. We learn fear and we teach fear. We think we are teaching people to be cautious and to protect themselves. It doesn’t mean we should go around hugging people armed with guns. There obviously are dangerous people in the world; what’s done is done in many ways where people have allowed themselves to let their fear lead them; we can’t erase the fear that exists. But we also can’t live each day crippled by what could happen.
When I started my blog two years ago, I was a very anxious person. I still struggle with it at times. But I woke up one day and realized, I could go on living half a life, questioning every motive of other people and saying “no” more than allowing new experiences to awaken parts of my brain that have been sleeping my whole life. Or I could start living a life ruled by love, one where I’m not afraid to let life happen to me. We invite some suffering and pain when we do this, but those things are nothing to be afraid of. Life’s obstacles are opportunities to help us grow into the people we were always meant to be.
But what do we do when someone hurts us? How can we keep believing that the world is a place filled with love and joy? Of course we will be afraid of being burned again. We are human beings, not idiots. Most of us have experienced a time where someone has injured us to our core. The sin committed was one that we just aren’t sure we will ever be able to get past. So we have two choices. We can go into defense mode. We can shut down and lock the person out of our lives forever. We can tell others how awful the person is and warn them against having a relationship with them as well; spare other people the hurt we’ve experienced.
The other choice is the one that every spiritual messenger has recommended. I tend to think that they might be slightly more credible in such matters…They say to forgive.
Forgiveness is our best weapon against pain and suffering. If Love is our shield against fear, Forgiveness is our sword against hate. I suppose this doesn’t mean we need to keep exposing ourselves to people who hurt us over and over. But it doesn’t mean that we harbor animosity toward them either. All those negative emotions will erode our truth, our love. And we should never go into battle with a rusted shield and sword.
So today, just once, I beg you to consciously choose love and to forgive. Live that truth. I am finding it leads to so many more beautiful things: Patience with my children, gratitude for my life which is so abundantly blessed even though it’s not perfect. It brings me to tears every time I let that light of love flow into me. The other things, the worry, the anxiety, the fear all evaporate and all that’s left is this beautiful ocean of love.
We are told God says, “Do not be afraid, I am with you.” (Isaiah 41:10) Even if you don’t believe in God, believe in Love. It’s really the same thing.